Facing the Shadow-Self

To know yourself is to face your own shadows and light, and to go beyond the labeling aspect of existence, in the essence of your identity – what you choose in the now moment. It is as simple as this. You are more than a perception of what is considered to be moral, or immoral; you are more than an isolated act that you have committed; you are more than even your self-past-construction, or your social mask. No human being is completely bad, or – completely good. We all have things we struggle with, and we all have made mistakes. Still, what defines us is our level of consciousness, and what we choose to become, not a certain moral pattern.

It is important to respect the rules of the culture we live in; anarchy is not the solution. But, we also have to grasp the fact that we are not defined by society’s desires, or expectations, but by our own level of awareness which is always connected to the divine. The greatest judge is hiding inside of you! The greatest reward is abiding inside of your own being! As you are a human being that has also a spiritual dimension, you have the capacity to feel, intuitively, what is wrong, and what is right. If society teaches you something that your consciousness says is wrong, then you should listen to your consciousness.

In the past, people did a lot of awful things that were legal, at that time. Slavery is one of them; so just the fact that society approves of something does not guarantee that it is moral, also. What is the solution, then? Should we live outside this world? No. The key is to balance the tendency to adapt to society with the tendency to remain one’s self. We must keep our originality, while living among other humans. We must keep lit our own inner light! We must try to be happy, while elevating others!

In this context, facing your shadow-self is extremely important, as it leads to self-healing, and that guides you towards inner balance. And if you have attained that you can function properly in an insecure world; you have the basis of a healthy life! But what does it mean to face your shadows? It means to be honest in relation to your current state of being. It means acknowledging your flaws and faults. It means accepting your wounds and needs. It means taking action-steps towards your healing. Accepting your shadow does not mean making a cult for either your positive side or for your negative side. It means seeing yourself as a whole, and balancing your opposing tendencies for the greatest good of your own being and of others. What will be the result of these strenuous efforts? A happier ‘you’.

Being spiritual is a part of this journey of self-healing; having a ‘soul-mate’, or a ‘twin-flame’ is an opportunity of change and growth. Most believe that it is about being romantically involved with their significant other; but, ultimately, it is not. You may never have a human relationship with a person with which you have a soul-connection, because that is not its main purpose. The essential is the mirroring aspect involved by that connection, as only by seeing who you truly are, at your core, you can truly heal. The essential is your becoming. The essential is your own awakening. These are the pillars on which you will build your existence.

Your beloved may never want to face his or her true self. Does that mean that you also have to remain in that state? No! If you consider yourself to be awake, (not ‘more awake’, more ‘awakened’, and so on!), then you must know that even if the entire world goes on the wrong path, you must still walk on the right one. Even if all forgot that they have a divine purpose, you cannot forget it! Even if nobody teaches the truth, and nobody guides others towards the true self-mastery, (which is never about the other’s actions!), still you have to do it, if you are AWAKENED!

So, what is the conclusion? Instead of chasing around false expectations, you should have the guts to accept what the Mirror is reflecting back unto you. An expanded consciousness knows that this spiritual journey is not about labeling, nor about anything from the exterior, but about what you have always been – your true identity: love, wisdom, and power! Stop playing dead! Step into your power!

The Balance between Action and Desire

It is normal for human beings to have desires. It is helpful to put your intentions out there, by either writing them down, on a piece of paper, or by uttering them. It is good to visualize that which you desire, as this will motivate you, and help you to focus. But if you will not act upon those intentions, your dreams will not come true. You can dream all day about your goals; you can speak about them to everybody! Until you decide that you will take real action-steps towards your vision, it will not be fruitful!

And this goes for anything: education, finances, health, or relationships. People emphasize too much the need to express your intentions, and it is OK. But if you will not do something practical about what you secretly wish – it will per! The key is balance. Learn how to balance those desires with the right things to support it. Learn how to work and play, to save money and to invest, to connect with people, but to have your meditation time, also.

Persevere! Those who succeed are not better; they are just more determined. Remember that you can shape your life the way you want – and stop blaming others for your failures. The universe, God, the angels are with you, no matter whom you may be. The fact that you exist is the ultimate proof that you are needed, wanted, and blessed. If this universe self-regulates in an amazing way, then, your existence is not a coincidence. You live – that is the greatest gift! Make it worth it!

What Is Karma?

We have so much information on this subject, but how accurate is it? There are so many theories that, in fact, delay the advancement of someone’s personal growth. Many sustain that karma is a punishment; and that you have karma with people, and thus, that you were meant to have a relationship with them, and to experience pain; that suffering is inevitable.

Although suffering is a part of life, it is not its final destination. Also, the ideas that you have to be in relationship with a certain person that is causing you distress, or that you cannot escape a toxic situation, because you have a soul-contract with him or her – all these are false!

The only soul-contract that you have is with yourself. Only you know what you need to experience in order to grow. The vehicle through which the lesson comes to you is not important! How do I know that? I know it, because I have observed how things develop. In life, if you do not change, you will experience the same thing, not because you have another soul-contract with the new person, but because that is the energy of you – that is what you are creating. When you change, everything changes around you. And that is karma: the opportunity of growth; you leaping from one level of consciousness to another one.

Karma is just a fancy word for an eternal soul-expansion. We evolve (hopefully!) as long as we live. Growth becomes karma only when you are refusing to grow. If you extend your consciousness, and if you change – you are not trapped by karma, as you do not feel the burden of it. Karma is just a perspective. Karma is not you being punished; karma is you seeing yourself as punished. Karma is not God, or the universe working against you; karma is you working against you.

Ultimately, the one who can keep you bound is yourself. Ultimately, the one who can liberate you is your own self! You do not suffer because you have karma with a person, situation, or place. You suffer because you choose to remain in that energy of suffering, lack, and self-distrust! If you understand this, you comprehend life, and you can master it. You will not suffer, anymore, because certain people who only keep you down refuse to take responsibility for their actions. You will take responsibility for your own life, so pain will end. You will not complain that others mistreat you; you will simply stop that type of behaviour!

And this goes for everyone and everything: family, friends, soul-mates, and twin-flames! The labels differ, but the essence is the same: we are all humans; we are all spiritual beings; we are all capable of offering love; we are all worthy of receiving love; we are all responsible for the persons we become and for the quality of our own lives! No excuses!

Unconditional love does not mean that you have to tolerate evil; to perpetrate it, indirectly. Unconditional love is ‘you being you’, meanwhile allowing the other to do the same – without judgment, bitterness, or expectations. Unconditional love is being honest about what you need, what you can offer, and about if you can create a healthy space of healing and further growth around yourself and around the other. Letting the other treat you badly is not unconditional love, but dysfunction. This society created a false image about love, in order to control us, and make us weak. It is your choice if you will accept the truth, and awaken, or still remain asleep, and wounded, and split. What do you choose? Do you realize how powerful you are?

-Your karma, or destiny, is not what happens to you, but what you make of it!

Nobody Teaches You how to Let Go

As important as fighting for things, dreams, and persons, it is to let go. Peacefully, not bitterly, not being depressed – just flexible, fluid, like the waters-of-life. There are things worth fighting for, living for, and dying for. But there are others who destroy you from within; eating everything inside of you; bringing your final, dark, and meaningless collapse. These entities, situations, or memories are a cancer of the soul, and they need to be consumed by the fire of new hopes and new perspectives. You can pay your respects to what they meant to you, but you have to bury them! End the connection between you and the perpetrators of your pain, now!

Sometimes, it is nobody from the exterior; sometimes, you are hurting your own soul! And what has to go is the old you, the little you, the inexperienced you. Even if you have made mistakes, now, it is time to move on. Build a New World on the knowledge that you have gained with that great affliction and that inner torment! Those who experience hell, in their minds, deserve a heaven. You already have been through so much! Let go! And if you do not know how – learn!

What will never fail us is what we are, at our core, our identity! But even that is always changing, as we are not a pre-given product, but a becoming-one. You can choose today to shift at 180 degrees. You can make your life a masterpiece of growth! It is not about them; it is about you! Let go of what has been killing you inside: you do not really need it! How do I know that? Because we are joy! Joy and love – that is our essence!

The Power of Self-Love

Culture has a great impact on our way of thinking, acting, and feeling. From a very young age, I was taught that Princesses are loved by Princes, and that you have to be a Princess, in order to be loved by a Prince-Charming. The trouble was that I never actually felt like a Princess. I did not consider myself to be too beautiful; I was not that feminine; I did not like dresses, nor makeup. I had other interests than just adorning myself, and exposing myself to the eye of the potential male-watcher. Reading, for example, was a better time-passing activity, a more meaningful one.

But, later on, I got hurt, inside, not by others, but by myself. I felt the need to be a lovely young lady, as, in my mind, that was the only way to obtain love. By comparing myself with that illusory pattern, I got to think that something is wrong with me. Why can I not be like them? Why am I so different? And I cried, inwardly, thousands of tears.

That pain produced a clarity that the superficial Princesses do not possess. I understood that the cliche is false, and, more than that, that it is dysfunctional. We are unique, and we deserve to be loved for whom we are – for nothing else. We do not become worthy of love – we are worthy, all the time. In our imperfect moments, even, we are the most cute, as we show, genuinely, whom we re, at our core. Vulnerability and honesty equate with sexiness. Intelligence is hotness. Education and common sense, compassion, dedication, loyalty – these things make you appealing for the Real Man – the one who knows what is valuable in a life full of Masks.

I no longer suffer because I am not Cinderella. I no longer identify myself with the tale. In the real story, I am the main character, and the person who must love me the most is – myself! From this point of balance, I can give love, and receive love, in a healthy way! ‘We are bringing sexy back’ – through our heart-opening, our sensitivity, our intuition, our character, and our intelligence. Dear Reader, you are beautiful, just the way you are! Do not allow people to bring you down! Create your own story! And, please, remember, we do not obtain love, we are Love!