We have so much information on this subject, but how accurate is it? There are so many theories that, in fact, delay the advancement of someone’s personal growth. Many sustain that karma is a punishment; and that you have karma with people, and thus, that you were meant to have a relationship with them, and to experience pain; that suffering is inevitable.
Although suffering is a part of life, it is not its final destination. Also, the ideas that you have to be in relationship with a certain person that is causing you distress, or that you cannot escape a toxic situation, because you have a soul-contract with him or her – all these are false!
The only soul-contract that you have is with yourself. Only you know what you need to experience in order to grow. The vehicle through which the lesson comes to you is not important! How do I know that? I know it, because I have observed how things develop. In life, if you do not change, you will experience the same thing, not because you have another soul-contract with the new person, but because that is the energy of you – that is what you are creating. When you change, everything changes around you. And that is karma: the opportunity of growth; you leaping from one level of consciousness to another one.
Karma is just a fancy word for an eternal soul-expansion. We evolve (hopefully!) as long as we live. Growth becomes karma only when you are refusing to grow. If you extend your consciousness, and if you change – you are not trapped by karma, as you do not feel the burden of it. Karma is just a perspective. Karma is not you being punished; karma is you seeing yourself as punished. Karma is not God, or the universe working against you; karma is you working against you.
Ultimately, the one who can keep you bound is yourself. Ultimately, the one who can liberate you is your own self! You do not suffer because you have karma with a person, situation, or place. You suffer because you choose to remain in that energy of suffering, lack, and self-distrust! If you understand this, you comprehend life, and you can master it. You will not suffer, anymore, because certain people who only keep you down refuse to take responsibility for their actions. You will take responsibility for your own life, so pain will end. You will not complain that others mistreat you; you will simply stop that type of behaviour!
And this goes for everyone and everything: family, friends, soul-mates, and twin-flames! The labels differ, but the essence is the same: we are all humans; we are all spiritual beings; we are all capable of offering love; we are all worthy of receiving love; we are all responsible for the persons we become and for the quality of our own lives! No excuses!
Unconditional love does not mean that you have to tolerate evil; to perpetrate it, indirectly. Unconditional love is ‘you being you’, meanwhile allowing the other to do the same – without judgment, bitterness, or expectations. Unconditional love is being honest about what you need, what you can offer, and about if you can create a healthy space of healing and further growth around yourself and around the other. Letting the other treat you badly is not unconditional love, but dysfunction. This society created a false image about love, in order to control us, and make us weak. It is your choice if you will accept the truth, and awaken, or still remain asleep, and wounded, and split. What do you choose? Do you realize how powerful you are?
-Your karma, or destiny, is not what happens to you, but what you make of it!